A key to living alone successfully is to determine who you really are and what you really want for your life. No "shoulds" or other people's agendas.
Identify those things that fully engrossed you as a child or that today completely consume you - those things that make you feel complete, as though nothing is missing. These are your "loves." These pursuits reveal your true self.
PART ONE: Answer these questions:
1) Search back. What were things you did or pursued as a child that gave you joy? The things you thought you did particularly well, that you perhaps secretly took pride in. What did you just loved doing as a kid?
2) More recently, when do you completely lose yourself in something? What are you doing when time flies?
3) And finally, what are the kinds of things you do when you have time to yourself, perhaps on vacation. How do you spend your time, when no one's watching, when you're just being you?
PART TWO: Take action
Based on the answers above, identify one step (even a small step) you can take — now — to reconnect with a past interest or to go more deeply into an existing interest.
Write down the step and consider using the customized goal worksheet for this purpose.
Share your pursuit with another person — a good friend, a relative, or post your intentions on the Community Forum and ask for input. But share it! Do it today!
