About Living Alone Workshops

I lead empowerment workshops for women who want to reclaim their lives – women who want to get a better handle on living alone, to find joy again, and to feel more content with themselves and their independence.

Alone and Content: Forging a New Life on Your Own is a 1-day workshop offered several times a year, typically in the spring and fall. It is geared to women in midlife after a divorce or the death of a spouse, although younger women have attended and benefited, as well.

Through engaging discussions and empowerment exercises, you’ll discover how to:

  • Think differently about living alone

  • Identify obstacles and emotional pitfalls that stop you from moving forward

  • Rediscover your true self

  • Imagine and articulate a life that reflects your beliefs and values

  • Socialize in a couples’ world

  • Let go of past hurts, disappointments, regrets, etc. that keep you stuck

  • Make the most of the opportunity to rewrite your next chapter with more clarity, purpose, and joy

See FAQs below for more information . . .

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FAQs

 
 

Who attends the workshop?
Most, but not all, of the women who attend the workshop are between the ages of 50 and 70 and have come out of long marriages or relationships. I am 64. Some are on their own for the first time in their lives. All have one thing in common: they want to get a better handle on living alone and to feel more content with themselves and their independence. Many see this workshop as an extension of the support they are receiving from family, friends, a therapist, and/or their congregation.

I’m still grieving the loss of my marriage/spouse. Is this workshop right for me?
Good question. My Living Alone workshop is a “nuts and bolts,” practical workshop to help women become more resourceful and independent on their own. It is not a grief support group. If you are still in the grieving process and seek support, you may benefit from talking with a professional counselor or your pastor.  Help and encouragement might also be found in groups and gatherings that offer emotional support and guidance.  

What are your credentials?
I’m not a licensed therapist. My expertise is born out of real-life experience. I emerged from my divorce feeling very deflated and very alone, faced with both the practical and emotional challenges of living alone. It took years and some hard-knock lessons, but I eventually discovered a resourcefulness within myself that enabled me to forge a joyful and meaningful life on my own. My time-tested experience, combined with valuable resources and tried-and-true advice has inspired and helped many workshop participants.

Where are the workshops held?
The workshops are held at my home and Bed & Breakfast in upstate New York. My place is a little historic gem, situated on a picturesque six-acre site, surrounded by horse farms and parkland. Reminiscent of a quaint English cottage, my home serves as a peaceful and inspirational setting for the workshops.

How large are the workshops?
Ideally, I like to have eight women in each workshop, although, on occasion, I have led workshops with a few more and a few less. This ideal size (eight) gives everyone a chance to actively participate, hear from one another, and get the most out of our time together.

I'm a therapist/counselor/life coach/helping professional.  Could I participate in your workshop?
I'm sorry, no.  My workshop guidelines do not permit the participation of counselors, therapists, mediators, and other helping professionals (e.g., self-help book authors, life coaches, health/wellness instructors). If my schedule permits, I am willing to talk by phone to discuss my workshop concept and content.

How much does the 1-day boot camp cost?
The 1-day workshop fee is $165 and includes interactive discussion, empowerment exercises, and helpful resources you can trust. Breakfast pastries with coffee/tea and a delicious healthy lunch are provided. The 1-day workshop runs from 9:30 am to 4:00 pm, with breaks and opportunities to get to know one another.

A portion of each workshop’s proceeds benefits the Women’s Foundation of Genesee Valley, a local foundation dedicated to helping girls and young women become self-sufficient.

When is the next boot camp and how do I sign up?
I typically hold two 1-day workshops per year - one in the spring and one in the fall. I may add an additional workshop if it is over-subscribed. Email me at gvoelckers@rochester.rr.com for the upcoming workshop schedule, registration information, and directions to my home. Registration is required, because seating is limited.

 
 

 
 

In Their Words

 
 

Don’t take my word for it. Below are quotes from the workshop evaluations. I’ve attributed the quotes to actual participants, using their first names only out of respect for their privacy.

 
 
It will be an investment in your happiness.
— Teresa J.
 
 
The workshop was an eye-opener, a reality check for me ̶ just to know it’s OK to be alone. The workshop was very informative and comfortable. A positive influence, and chance to meet others in the same boat.
— Rita C.
 
 
The workshop was empowering. A great way to discover the new you and all that’s within you.
— Linda K.
 
 
I shared a feeling of camaraderie and bonding with other women facing the adjustment of living alone. I’ve come away stronger in the knowledge that I can make a good life.
— Norma D.
 
 
I thought it was perfect! We had a great group of women. There was humor, yet I learned a lot.
— Denise G.
 
 
I wish it were longer! I hated to see it come to an end.
— Cindy S.